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Screw up your courage: it’s a long way down

We put up a video on our YouTube channel – Stop Being So Poor – last week about John’s recent rock climbing experience (you can check out the video here) and I wanted to tell the story in a little more detail. Actually, let me rephrase that: I want to put the story into my words

Back in the eighties John was a pretty hot shot rock climber who spent every weekend and most evenings of his youth, down at the local quarry, Pex Hill, honing his skills so he could venture out into the rock-filled world of the Lakes District, Snowdonia, South Wales and then further afield into France (in particular Buoux).

This is a man who, when we started seeing each other, would do one finger pull-ups on the architrave over the door every time he went through it.

Given half an opportunity, he’d “traverse” the lounge using the Victorian dado rail as his finger hold. There was no foot hold. Heaven knows how it didn’t fall off! He climbed with the glitterati of the British rock climbing world of the time: Joe Healey, Gerry Peel, Jerry Moffatt and Phil Davidson. Just recently, John came across a podcast featuring Joe Healey (you can listen to it here –  https://itunes.apple.com/au/podcast/jam-crack-the-niall-grimes-climbing-podcast/id1065991509 – Joe’s interview is no 27 ) and Joe mentioned John as the best climber he’d ever come across. He also said John had dropped out of climbing in the 90’s. Which he did. Only he misses climbing and I’d love to see him get back into it. John, however, felt that he was too old now to do something like that.

Over the years, I’ve tried to get John back into climbing. I’ve bought him memberships to climbing clubs, I’ve got the kids to persuade him to take them climbing, I even bought him his own climbing wall (yes, actually!), but while he enjoyed all of them, none refired his interest in climbing for very long. Last Christmas, I decided to have another go and bought John a day’s guided climb in the Blue Mountains, west of Sydney.

I know pretty much zero about climbing. I’ve watched all these guys climb up cliffs that look completely sheer to me. I recently watch Alex Honnold free solo El Capitan in Yosemite National Park. Free solo! A 1000 metre climb with no ropes!

I say “I watched Alex Honnold climb”, I actually only saw bits of it through my fingers because they were somehow clamped over my face. I just don’t have a head for heights: I have far too much imagination.

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As a result, rock climbing has never really appealed to me. Physically, I’m good at climbing, John tells me, but as far as I’m concerned, I shake and tremble my way up the rock, the shaking and trembling getting harder, the further the ground retreats beneath me.

John was a little bit cross with his present… well, no, at first he was pleased because he loves me, he appreciates the things I do for him and he thought this was a really thoughtful present, but then he realised just how serious this climb was. After spending a bit of time on YouTube watching videos on the particular route he’d be climbing (Bunny Bucket Buttress), he came out of his office looking slightly wan and edgy. This wasn’t bumbling round a bit of rock and having a fun day, he’d realised, this was a serious climb: 350 metres of vertical rock at a grade that wasn’t too difficult when he was in his twenties, only these days, he’s not in his twenties. He’s in his fifties. And he hasn’t climbed in a very long time. He hasn’t even kept himself fit, really. He’s had the spurt of staying fit, but only when there’s a purpose to being fit, like when he’s about to do a big trek in the Himalayas or something like that, otherwise he doesn’t bother.

When I booked the climb, it specifically asks for your experience and states that “You must be able to COMFORTABLY second a Grade 22 climb”. Sure he can, thinks I, and – rose tinted glasses firmly in place – I proceed to reassure the climbing company that John was not only easily capable of this but that he had, in actual fact, been a world class climber in his youth (well, he had!).

 

I kind of glossed over the fact that he hasn’t done any climbing in several decades, nor has he been to a gym in yonks (despite the fact that we possess enough equipment to fit out a gym, the little used reminders of my ongoing defeats in the battle to lure John into a fitness obsession), and that, in general, he believed he was way too old for all this “fitness s**t” and he was never going to climb again, it was a thing of the past.

Now, you see, I thought all that was really sad, and I wasn’t having a bar of it. I was absolutely convinced that if only John had a reason to climb again, then he’d find out that he wasn’t too old, he’d enjoy himself and get a little joie de vivre back in his life.

Actually, if I’m entirely honest, what I want him to get out of climbing is the adrenaline fix that otherwise he gets from living on the edge in his business and financial life by leaving everything to the last minute. I’d much rather he got his adrenaline fix from somewhere else. Just saying.

Plus, I don’t believe you’re ever too old to do something. You may not be able to do something as well as you could in your twenties but that doesn’t mean you can’t still enjoy doing it. I blame my dad for that view: he’s in his eighties and he still runs every day, rides racing motorbikes and scuba dives. And he looks like a grey haired, balding Action Man (hi Dad!).

As John realised the difficulty of the climb, he realised that he would need to train for this, as in actually do a few months’ preparation and get into good physical condition. What am I saying? This is John we’re talking about. He’s never in a million years going to do a few months preparation, he’s going to leave it to the last minute and then try to cram the whole thing into a last minute exercise (no pun intended). Which is exactly what happened. He joined the gym, got a trainer, started Pilates and kept watching the videos of the climb he would be doing in a few weeks.

 I finally managed to persuade him to go to the climbing wall so that he could practise actual climbing. I know from my own experience that you can be as fit as a fiddle but when you start a new sport, you struggle; your body just isn’t used to being used for that purpose, it takes a  little while to build up the stamina.

I have to say that I was far keener for John to go to the climbing wall than John was. He really dragged his feet about the whole thing. I ended up resorting to watching the climbing videos over his shoulder and making comments like “Ooh, there’s some finger strength needed there! Do we have one of those finger exercisers?” and “Wow, his arms look tired! Have you been doing many pull ups?” and generally nagging him about getting himself down to the climbing wall so that he could actually climb.

Eventually he caved in (yay! Go me!) and off we toddled to the climbing wall with me as his not-so-trusty belayer (the person who holds the rope while the other is climbing; I’m not very good at it). Two weeks or so before he was due to go on the climbing day, I was beginning to get really worried. It was really obvious that he still found Grade 22 difficult. Not technically, he still had all the moves, but he didn’t have the strength in his fingers to execute them. I put the suggestion out that maybe he could, you know, possibly postpone the climb for a couple of months maybe, so he could, perhaps, feel a little more confident, you know, in his strength and, erm, ability to do the, ah, more technical moves.

In other words, I didn’t think he was fit enough to do this climb right now and I was trying to be tactful about it. Tact isn’t something that comes naturally to me, so this was a tricky conversation. But despite my ongoing suggestions that maybe he postpone for a few months, John dismissed my concerns (observations), adamant that he’d be okay, it was only a Grade 22, for heaven’s sake! He would have done that as a warm up in the eighties, probably even done it without a rope, he asserted.

Despite several attempts to persuade my aging rock climbing husband to postpone the big day, he stood firm in his belief that climbing Bunny Bucket Buttress was well within his climbing ability and off he went to meet his guide on the assigned day. John had a brief chat with him outlining his previous experience – I’ve done this, I’ve climbed that, I’ve soloed, I’ve first ascented, blah blah. It was all going swimmingly until the guide asked him what he’d done lately. “Erm, ah, well, I’ve been to the climbing wall a few times,” replies John. You could see the warning bells begin to ring in the guide’s head as he handed John a helmet, a harness and a short rope to attach to the harness.

Putting on a harness is something that any rock climber can do in the dark. Climbers spend their entire lives wearing a harness. They also put a lot of effort into their ropes and knots, which is fair enough because their lives depend on them. To be fair, John had never worn a helmet before, it’s one of those health and safety rules that go with getting a guided climb.

As John kitted himself up, the guide’s concern grew. John put the harness on back to front. Then he put the helmet on backwards. Then, red in the face with embarrassment and growing more apprehensive about this whole idea by the minute, he couldn’t remember how to tie the basic climbers’ knot and had to get help with that, too.

By this time, the guide was swearing under his breath about idiots who think they can climb but haven’t got a clue.

They drove out to the gorge and trekked for twenty minutes or so to the cliff edge.

The Blue Mountains are only an hours’ drive from Sydney but many parts of them are still inaccessible. The gorges are huge, steep and deep, their cliffs cutting vast rifts through the densely packed eucalyptus trees. These Blue Gums give off an oily mist that makes the whole area glisten with a blue sheen and led to the name, the Blue Mountains.

Finally, as the two men reached the edge of the cliff overlooking the valley, trepidation began to seep into John’s stomach. He listened to the guide, his anxiety growing by the second, telling him that they abseil down a much smaller wall than the one they’ll be climbing, the abseil wall is only about 150 metres high, so three ropes pitches.

For all us non-climbers, 150 metres of abseil means that it takes 3 ropes to reach the bottom and you must stop twice on the way down to change ropes and start a new abseil.

In this case, down a vertical and occasionally overhanging cliff. There are no ledges, nowhere to sit; at your stop points, you’re hooked to a bolt on the wall while you unhook from one rope and attach yourself to the next rope. Most of John’s climbing has been on single pitch cliffs. He’s rarely climbed in places where you need more than one rope, and he certainly hasn’t done that since we left the UK in 1991. Now it seemed to John that possibly he’s a little bit afraid of heights these days (possibly not, mind; I suspect he was just a bit confronted).

As he was preparing the ropes and equipment to begin his descent, the guide cheerily told John that the only way into or out of this part of the valley was via the belay they were about to begin, and that if anything happened, they’d have to call the rescue helicopter.

Oh, and if it started raining, they’d be stuck, too. Since the only way out of the gorge from here was up the rock, and since you can’t climb up wet rock, they’d have to call the rescue helicopter, ha ha.

The guide descended to the first stop point and hooked himself up to the belay point on the wall, unconcernedly hanging from a small rope (the one that John couldn’t remember how to knot) 100 metres above the forest floor and then it was John’s turn to descend.

 

I can only describe what I suspect was going through John’s mind at this point. He’s told me that he was “scared s**tless” and seriously regretting his decision to do this climb and what the hell was I thinking getting this kind of present for him?

 

The cliff was overhanging in a number of places, so as John descended, his feet lost contact with the wall. As he slowly spun in 360 degrees over 120 metres in the air, he was able to fully appreciate the inaccessibility and isolation of the rugged and harsh terrain. And his own mortality.

The climb back up, all 350 metres and eight rope pitches of it, was ‘pumpy’ (hard on the arms), ‘fingery’ (it hurt your fingertips), ‘sharp’ (the rock cuts into your skin) and ‘slippery’.

It was at the extreme edge of John’s current fitness level but his technical skill meant that he did the climb easily. It was physically challenging rather than technically. He only fell off once in the whole 350 metres, the guide acknowledging both John’s ability and his own relief after the first pitch.

Note to self: go easier on my husband next time. Or at least give him a bit more time to get himself in shape.

Actually, that’s never going to work: John’s a last minute, pants-on-fire kind of person; if I’d given him 12 months’ warning, he would still have started training only a few weeks before the event.

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share I don’t know about you, but by the time I reached my fifties, I was an absolute MASTER at feeling guilty and being sad about what I’d lost and would never have again (think: cuddles from a little child, the family all being together, pizza nights in front of the TV, school runs, that kind of thing) (okay, maybe not the school runs). It’s such a difficult trap to get out of, but it’s made MUCH easier when you recognise what’s happening. Like, for example, when you find yourself short tempered in the last few days of your child’s visit but that’s because you’re sad that their visit visit is nearly over and you’re going to miss them. Or the way you lie in bed every night with this vague and persistent feeling of regret, accompanied by thoughts about all the things you haven’t done or should have done throughout your entire life? What if that’s just your mind’s way of acknowledging that there’s such a grief about the fact that one major part of your life is over and until you acknowledge it, it’s going to hang around. In this podcast, I go through the things that I’ve done (and hopefully you can do, if you’re inclined) to let go of the guilt and embrace the grief (yes, embracing it makes it disappear so much faster!). Find out: ✨✨ How to start to recognise the different emotions that are reeling through your brain at any moment, and often at the same time ✨✨ How sharing our real selves  – authentically and fully – can change the way we experience life ✨✨ How we undervalue ourselves ✨✨ Working out what is it we really want from life ✨✨ Being honest about the things we’re really good at ✨✨ Acknowledging our talents and experience (something we, as middle-aged women, tend to be VERY bad at!) ✨✨(This is a controversial one ) Allowing ourselves the freedom to do things we enjoy and not do things we think we OUGHT to do This is a hugely important podcast for all women to listen to! By the way, the podcasts about my parenting style that I talk about can be accessed here: Jamie’s podcast about favourite children, Ryan’s podcast about how to communicate with teenagers, and Kira’s podcast about why I insisted I was their parent not their friend. The latest podcasts & articles 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share Menopause isn’t something that’s openly discussed… at least, not until it happens, and even then, only among close friends. Which means that it’s actually very difficult to find out anything about what to expect during peri-menopause & menopause until you’re right in the middle of it. As far as the medical profession goes, the information available is either really vague or really generic: you may experience this, you might find that, this other thing could be a symptom of menopause, but we don’t know. There’s very little concrete information about menopause because we all experience different things at different times: there’s no certainty about the age at which we’ll start menopause, we have no idea how long it  will last and no clue as to which possible symptoms will present and which ones we’re going to avoid. But it’s absolutely crucial that we understand what’s happening and we prepare not just ourselves, but those around us.   Come and join me and Maurya Reider in conversation talking about what we experienced during menopause and how we dealt with it. Maurya has some amazing tips for supporting our loved ones. Today’s Guest: Maurya Rieder Wife, mother, IT Project Manager, avid personal growth devotee.  Maurya Rieder, oldest of 4 kids, parent of two, American by nature, Australian by choice. She loves to pursue growth type activities, including participating in Landmark Education’s programs for a number of years. Reading personal growth books is one of her favourite pastimes. Maurya has been in menopause for 3 years and is, on the whole, quite happy about that. Connect with Maurya on Facebook (click here) and connect with other women to chat about the menopause by joining the Menopause, Marriage and Motherhood Facebook Group here. More fabulous podcasts and great articles Subscribe today to get new episodes as soon as they’re released! 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share According to the 2011 Census, there are over 5000 homeless women over the age of 55 in Australia, with single women being the most vulnerable group. In fact, Homelessness Australia suggests that being over the age of 45 and single, along with renting, significantly increases a woman’s risk of becoming homeless. Gayle McKew’s mission in life is to help and support people in becoming financially independent, particularly at that time of life we’re all heading towards: retirement. Moving from the family home and into a retirement home can be fraught with hidden financial dangers but the really big area of danger is midlife for women. Through no fault of their own, a rapidly increasing number of women over 45 are finding themselves unable to rent somewhere to live, never mind buy a house, unable to get a job and unable to support themselves. We probably all know a midlife woman who permanently house sits and couch surfs at other people’s places between gigs. Or someone who’s moved in with their family. But you probably didn’t think of them as homeless, and they’re fortunate enough to not have to live on the streets. Come and find out more about this pretty horrifying topic and why it’s never too late to start planning for your retirement. Today’s Guest: Gayle McKew Strategic Financial Adviser / Age Care Specialist /Money Coach / Speaker / Author As a financial professional Gayle brings more than 40 years of experience to financially empowering individuals to improve their relationship with money and increase their money confidence.  After discovering some friends had had their financial security destroyed, because of their circumstances rather than poor decision making, she realised how many people, especially women, were at risk of losing their security and hope for the future. Having identified people were at risk because of poor financial awareness, she has been on a mission to improve financial skills, especially in women. Her book, Women Mind Your Money is part of her project to improve financial literacy and skills and is focused on empowering women with knowledge & skills so they can thrive financially. Her reasoning is…if you learn how to manage your personal financial situation you have opened the gateway to breaking free and owning your future. Helping people take financial control is part of why she does what she does. She’s developing a program to help women build money confidence and skills. The beta program starts in early April 2021. Connect with Gayle: WEBSITE:      https://www.prosperityplanning.com.au/FACEBOOK:      https://www.facebook.com/ProsperityPlanningPartnersFACEBOOK:      https://www.facebook.com/WomenMindYourMoney Learn to Mind Your Money Are you frustrated by your relationship with money? Imagine if you could use the skills of a 40 year money veteran to help you access a range of short cuts designed to help you get ahead financially. Think of all the time and stress you could save yourself. Let Gayle help you cut through the boring parts of money so you can get better results for yourself. JOIN NOW 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share How did an Irish girl who was working in her family’s restaurant business end up building a highly successful Feng Shui business on the internet? And when I say ‘highly successful’, some of the wins that Patricia Lohan’s clients have achieved include:  ✨✨ TV appearances when they wanted to promote their business ✨✨ More money coming in than they ever dreamed possible in such a short space of time ✨✨ Unexpected opportunities in careers when they felt they needed a change, and of course… ✨✨ Finding the relationship of their dreams We also debunk some of the myths about Feng Shui and how it works… Why Feng Shui can be the best starting point when you want to make changes in your life How Feng Shui works What Feng Shui is The fact that you don’t need to move house or knock down walls!) Why putting some Feng Shui into practise in your life can be exactly what’s needed in midlife Listen to the podcast and find out just how easy and simple it is to make huge changes in your life. Today’s Guest: Patricia Lohan  Feng Shui Expert,  Speaker and Author. Patricia Lohan, is the creator of Feng Shui Mastery and Author of The Happy Home: A Guide To Creating A Happy, Healthy, Wealthy Life. She helps entrepreneurs make their home & businesses magnetic to money, luck and blessings. She shows you what they don’t teach in business school, what lies between the lines, your top secret tool for success. She is a Feng Shui expert, a healer and passionate female entrepreneur who has shaped her dream life living in Bali with her husband. Patricia has a gift at making Feng Shui simple, easy to understand and implement. She has helped thousands of people across the globe embrace Feng Shui and create lasting changes in their businesses, homes and lives.  Patricia has seen first hand the power of the mind, surroundings and inner healing, clearing and aligning everything so it works holistically. She loves entrepreneurship with 15 years of experience running and growing three successful start ups of her own. Connect with Patricia on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, website or click here to find out about her Feng Shui Masterclass. More fabulous podcasts and great articles 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share FRENCH WOMEN HAVE WHAT SEEMS LIKE AN EFFORTLESSLY ELEGANT WAY OF DRESSING THAT THE REST OF US SIMPLY DON’T POSSESS (I DON’T, ANYWAY) Marie-Anne Lecoeur is an expert in French chic and style (as opposed to fashion) and helps thousands of women to identify their body shape and dress in a way that suits them. She also helps them to find their own stylish flair, something that most of us find very difficult to do. I’ve known Marie-Anne for more than three years now. We speak on the phone several times a week. I knew all of the things that she does online but I didn’t know half of the things I found out about her personally during this interview! 🌟🌟 Marie-Anne quit her job at the age of 50 to follow her love of writing 🌟🌟 Within a few months, she had not one but TWO Amazon best selling books 🌟🌟 For the next six months, one or the other of her books was the best seller in its category 🌟🌟 Her videos have had more than 8.5 million views Listen to the podcast and find out why Marie-Anne has made such a difference in so many women’s lives. Today’s Guest: Marie-Anne LeCoeur Best Selling Author,  member of the Federation of Image Professionals International and founder and CEO of MarieAnneLeCoeur.com Born and raised in France, Marie-Anne found herself constantly surrounded by French Chic ladies. ​Inspired by the style and fashion conversations that would take place around her and her mother’s guidance, Marie-Anne found herself enamored with all that is French Chic. She has learned to create her own style rooted from French Chic and encourages others to do the same.​ Marie-Anne genuinely wants the very best life for every woman that she impacts. She wants to empower them to discover their own true style so that they can make their own style decisions and take their confidence back. Lecoeur literally means “ Heart” so it’s not a coincidence that she wears her heart on her sleeve and leads women to fall in love with their unique style journey.​ Connect with Marie-Anne: FACEBOOK:    https://www.facebook.com/marieannelecoeurauthorWEBSITE:        https://www.marieannelecoeur.com/YOUTUBE:       https://www.youtube.com/user/marieannelecoeurINSTAGRAM:  https://www.instagram.com/marieannelecoeur/ FIND OUT HOW TO FRENCH CHIC YOUR STYLE Click on the link below to discover how Marie-Anne can help you STYLE YOUR LIFE NOW More fabulous podcasts and great articles 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share One of the reasons that I started the podcast is to share people’s stories because I believe that we all have an amazing story to share, it’s just that most of the time, we just don’t think it’s anything special because it happened to us. This story is no exception. Here’s a woman who: went from being stuck in a job to encouraging her husband to quit his job when she was pregnant with their fourth child, created multi million dollars in real estate, started & ran multiple businesses, most of them not successful until she realised what she was good at and what she wasn’t, going through bankruptcy and losing everything, starting again and rebuilding both her life and their business, buying properties with no money down living from the space of anything is possible I have to say, this was by far the most difficult and confronting episode to do; I don’t like talking about myself. Yep, this one’s about me, my family and what we’ve done. It took me MONTHS to record this so I have a lot of sympathy with my guests when they say they’re confronted about opening up in public! Listen to the podcast and prepare to be amazed (just kidding!) Click on the button to be the first to find out about new episodes! More fabulous podcasts and great articles 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share MENOPAUSE IS STILL SOMETHING THAT ISN’T OPENLY DISCUSSED AND, APART FROM THE UK (GO THE BRITS!), ISN’T SOMETHING THAT’S EVEN HINTED AT IN BIOLOGY OR SEX EDUCATION. SO LINDA CONDRILLO DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT THAT. Eleven years is a loooong time in anyone’s books. It’s how long Linda spent dealing with most of her peri- & post menopause symptoms. It’s also – purely by coincidence, of course – the same length of time that it took her to research and write her book about menopause: Period. The End. A journalist by profession, Linda puts a lot of thought and effort into her work, hoping to share knowledge and experiences to help other women – and their families – through this time of life that every woman goes through yet we know so little, and talk even less, about. Listen to this fascinating conversation with a woman who’s thoroughly lived her life. Today’s Guest: Linda Condrillo Author of Period. The End.Linda Condrillo is a freelance writer and author of PERIOD. The End: Wit, Wisdom, and Practical Guidance for Women in Menopause–and Beyond — a lighthearted look at surviving and thriving the change of life. Personal stories from peri to post menopausal women are shared in the book, as well as sage advice from experts in gynecology, sex therapy, osteoporosis, aromatherapy, professional organizing, nutrition, and more. Linda has recently relocated to “Lower Slower Delaware” with her retired husband. She is a former Realtor who enjoys travel, photography, aromatherapy, swimming, volunteering, and finding the funny in any given situation. In addition, Linda shares money saving tips on her Facebook page Frugalinda, where she shares “Everything you always wanted to know about frugality, but were afraid of sounding too cheap to ask.” Her penny-pinching tips have appeared in Woman’s Day Magazine, First for Women, CNN Money.com, SpareFoot.com, Wisebread.com, The Street.com, and GoBanking Rates.com. She is the proud parent of two adult children and is also the Grandmother of two (best gig ever). Connect with Linda:TWITTER:           https://twitter.com/FrugaLindaFACEBOOK:      https://www.facebook.com/lindawritenow  Wit, Wisdom, and Practical Guidance for Women in Menopause–and Beyond A lighthearted look at surviving and thriving the change of life. Personal stories from peri to post menopausal women are shared in the book, as well as sage advice from experts in gynecology, sex therapy, osteoporosis, aromatherapy, professional organizing, nutrition, and more. Buy Now 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share DEPRESSION AND SUICIDE AMONG MEN IS AT ITS HIGHEST RATE, BUT IT’S SOMETHING THAT STILL ISN’T TALKED ABOUT MUCH, PARTICULARLY BY THE MEN THEMSELVES. OFTEN, IT’S THE WOMEN IN THEIR LIVES WHO FORCE THEM TO ACT. When Luke Heka and Lino Hola lost friends to suicide, they realised that there had been no warning, no signs that the men were feeling as hopeless as they were, it was something that was never discussed. So they decided to try to do something about it. They started by taking a small group of men on a walk in the Gold Coast hinterland. The video captured on that day (you can watch it lower down this page) went viral and Luke and Lino suddenly found themselves inundated with requests to do more walks in more places. What was interesting was that a large portion of the men were there because their partners insisted they went. Sometimes, the men didn’t even realise what was happening till they were dropped off at the meeting point. The other ‘interesting’ thing was how many of those men had considered suicide, whether that was in the previous year, month, week, even that morning. In less than two years, Men’s Medicine has exploded and now does work all round Australia and NZ, and also holds women’s and couples programs. By the way, watch my face when Luke starts telling me about his drug addiction! It’s priceless! This might be Men’s Medicine but it’s a silent killer. Listen to the story of the group and let’s start spreading the word about this. If you know someone who might be in need of this work, you can contact Luke below. Today’s Guest: Luke Heka from Men’s MedicineMens Medicine is a Men’s and Women’s Support and Empowerment movement that was created to help men and women through their challenges and empower them through to the best versions of themselves. Mens Medicine is a Gold Coast based movement that travels throughout Australia and New Zealand to deliver a holistic approach to mental health and personal growth. Committed to having their work reach as many people as possible, most of the guys donate their time to the charity, relying on their normal jobs to pay the bills. Born in New Zealand and raised in country Queensland, Luke got involved with drugs in his teenaged years and, like many of his friends, ended up addicted to Ice, a crystal methamphetamine. Finally realising that his life was rapidly going nowhere, he cleaned himself up, got into bodybuilding and healthy eating, and eventually, along with his friend, Lino Hola, started Men’s Medicine. Luke talks about competing in a triathlon do raise money for the family of his friends’ little girl, Luna. You can find out more about that here: Connect with Mens Medicine: INSTAGRAM:        https://www.instagram.com/mens_medicine/FACEBOOK:      https://www.facebook.com/mensmedicineHQ/WEBSITE:           https://mensmedicine.info/ MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN SOMEONE’S LIFE Find out more about events that are on near you and how you – or your partner – can get involved Do It Now 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share IF WE’RE ANY KIND OF ALIVE (SORRY FOR THE JUDGEMENT!), WE’RE CONSTANTLY CHANGING AND GROWING… SO ARE THE PEOPLE AROUND US. WHICH MEANS THAT OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THEM MUST ALSO CHANGE CONSTANTLY. HOW DO WE DO THAT? HOW DO WE SUCCESSFULLY RECREATE OUR RELATIONSHIPS ON AN ONGOING BASIS? Not to brag (much), but I scored a bit of a coup here. Paul Sterling worked alongside Tony Robbins for 10 years including appearing on stage with him. Paul is a best selling author (actual best selling author not a pretend one) and pretty awesome relationship coach, and he agreed to come onto my podcast to explain to us – and show us – how to successfully navigate the treacherous waters of relationships. This is an interview where the video is just as important as the audio because Paul shares some amazing graphics that he’s developed that map out  exactly how to create and recreate your relationships. Come and find out about the amazing work that Paul does and get some insights into how you can move your relationships forward. Scroll down the page to connect with Paul and sign up for his FREE CLARITY SESSION to check out your relationship Today’s Guest: Paul Sterling  Argue Less, Love MorePaul Sterling is an international relationship and intimacy coach, a published author, a communication teacher and tantric educator. He coaches couples on communication, intimacy and sacred sexuality. Paul has been interviewed on TV, radio stations (including Playboy radio) and by newspapers. He is the creator of Magical Relationship Method for turning your relationship and sex life around. Paul didn’t start out to be an intimacy coach. The change came when his career was going strong, but his marriage fell apart and he went through a painful divorce followed by 3 failed engagements. He believed THERE HAD TO BE A BETTER WAY! Hungry for that better way, Paul discovered Nonviolent Communication (NVC) along with Tantra and Sacred Sexuality. He recognized the power of these modalities to help couples transform their relationships and radically improve the amount of love, intimacy and understanding they experience on a daily basis. His career has gone through several radical changes. The first 18 Years were spent as a commercial fisherman in Alaska. He transitioned into being a business consultant and communication coach to leaders. For the last 15 years he has focused on teaching couples transform the quality of their relationship through he books, mp3s, teleseminars and workshops. Connect with Paul: YOUTUBE:         https://www.youtube.com/user/tube2showFACEBOOK:      https://www.facebook.com/paul.sterling.35WEBSITE:           https://www.arguelesslovemore.net/ WANT TO ARGUE LESS AND LOVE MORE? Click here to go to the registration page for your FREE RELATIONSHIP CLARITY SESSION with Paul Do It Now 60 SHARES Share on Facebook Follow us Save Share

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