These are my musings, right? I could turn this into a long-winded lecture about how we could all start accepting ourselves as who we are, blah blah. I’m not gonna. Partly because I don’t like (i.e. can’t relate to) that whole airy-fairy, woo-woo, dippy hippy blah.
Last night, a friend commented that she’s always thought that she was a pretty amazing person. She didn’t say it in a braggy, puffed-up, self-important kind of way, it was just a statement of fact: she’s just always thought she was a pretty amazing person.
I was stunned. I found myself thinking, “What? You like who you are? Really? Wow!”
As she carried on talking, I found myself filled with admiration for her: what a fabulous thing to believe about yourself.
What would life look like if I believed that I was a pretty awesome person? How would I behave? What would I do differently?
The idea that I could like myself AND be a nice person (she’s amazing) had NEVER OCCURRED TO ME.
Don’t get me wrong, she doesn’t believe she’s perfect or that she has nothing to improve, it’s just that she’s basically already fabulous and she’s just building on that foundation.
It’s a pretty cool idea, and one that I think I’m going to try on.
Instead of coming home, like I did last night, and going over things in my head, wondering whether I’d overdressed, whether my make-up looked really crap (it’s a very long time since I wore any kind of heavy make-up and I’m seriously out of practice), wondering why I made a certain comment and beating myself up for giving a cup of tea to the wrong person…
Instead of doing all that, if I thought I was awesome, maybe I’d sleep a bit better at night.
Maybe I’d enjoy life a bit more and chill out, relax a bit, have some fun, stop being so uptight about stuff.
It sounds like a pretty attractive prospect to me.
I do think that it’s going to take a bit of practice for me to be able to say “I’m a pretty amazing person” without cringing / blushing / feeling stupid, though. Even the thought of saying it out loud makes me want to go and hide.
And let me say, I think a lot of the discomfort in this comes from being English: it’s just not the done thing to talk yourself up. It’s called ‘bragging’ and we don’t do that if we’re polite, decent people.
What are your thoughts on this? Let me know.
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